self-compassion — EMPOWERED TIMES BLOG

Self-Forgiveness for Emotional Regeneration

The human body is a marvel at releasing and renewing. Our bodies know how to let go of what has served its purpose through cellular regeneration. Though our body intuitively clears and heals, our minds often cling to regret, shame, and self-blame—setting up defenses that keep us stuck in emotional “scar tissue”.

Learning how to recognize when we are stuck in self-defeating cycles is integral to our mental health. Many people fear that forgiving themselves will let them “off the hook” too easily. Sometimes our need for forgiveness stems from a behavior or action within our control. Other times, we may subconsciously blame ourselves for something that was outside of our power like accidents, being abused or assaulted, or circumstances we never chose.

Self-forgiveness isn’t as simple as being excused or absolved. It’s not about denying or justifying harmful actions. It is a process of being honest with oneself, accepting responsibility, and cultivating self-compassion. This requires a level of vulnerability that we can’t force or hack our way through.

Like our body’s constant cellular regeneration, self-forgiveness is a powerful healing process. Emotional regeneration allows us to shed old stories, release what no longer serves us, and make space for new beginnings. The following steps serve as guideposts in your self-forgiveness journey…

Curiosity: The Cure for Criticism

It is often said that we can be our own worst enemy, harshly judging ourselves for our flaws or shortcomings. When we hear whispers of self-doubt, shouts of shame, or nagging insecurity, we are challenged to find ways to attend to that critical voice within. In honor of National Poetry Month (April) and upcoming World Meditation Day (May 20th), we explore five excerpts from both unconventional and traditional wisdom on how to bring more awareness, curiosity, understanding, and compassion toward self.

Rooted in Self-Trust

We typically associate the concept of trust in relation to other people—how credible, believable or reliable we find someone to be. However, we often struggle to develop that same trust, confidence, and belief in ourselves. We can grow self-trust by deepening the roots of understanding of who we are, strengthening our trunk (or core) by honestly accepting, forgiving and being present for ourselves, and extending branches of ourself that respond to life’s challenges with flexibility and perspective. It is a process. Yet, cultivating this kind of deep inner trust is enduring, irreplaceable, and self-perpetuating.

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